Funeral Preparation & Planning
One of the most sensitive times in people’s lives is the loss of a loved one. Despite our Christian belief in the resurrection of the dead and life everlasting purchased for us by Christ and promised to us in baptism when we are given life in Christ’s own death and resurrection, the physical reality is that of final separation from a loved one and an irreversible loss.When someone dies, those family and friends left behind all grieve in different ways. Here at SS. Peter and Paul, care is taken to perceive the extent of grief of family members, which varies with the circumstances of death: some families may be overwhelmed and not be able or willing to plan the funeral, some use it as a form of grieving, others use it as a way of honoring the deceased. There is no right or wrong here and the priests and liturgists are here to assist all families with their grieving process.
Those who choose to be involved in the planning of the funeral liturgy receive a packet, called “Through Death to Life”, a hymnal, and a liturgy outline sheet. The family then meets with the liturgist to plan the funeral liturgy. For more details on the funeral liturgy, click here.
The funeral home you have chosen will work with you and the parish to schedule your funeral liturgy. You may also use the Ministry Center Social Hall for a funeral luncheon if it is available on the day of your service. Funeral luncheon’s at SS. Peter & Paul are catered and volunteers from our parish are called to serve the luncheon for you. You are responsible for the cost of the food.
For more information or if you would like to plan a funeral liturgy or memorial service, please call the Parish office at 630-355-1081.
The Funeral Liturgy
- Gathering rites honor the life and body of the deceased.
- The casket and family are met at the entrance of the church. The casket is sprinkled with holy water and the pall (white covering) is placed on the casket by the family. This is a reminder of the baptismal water and garment and being claimed by Christ.
- Some of the music for the liturgy may be chosen by the family; however the music must come from the body of sacred music.
- The Gathering Song draws the assembly into the sacred moment.
- The casket is moved to the front of the main aisle by the pall bearers and placed in front of the paschal candle, which is a symbol of the union with Christ – the light of Christ given at baptism.
LITURGY OF THE WORD
- Scripture readings reflect the hope of eternity and our life in Christ.
- Old and New Testament readings may be chosen and read by the family or their designee. Although families are invited to participate in the readings, please take into consideration the person’s ability to read in public under the circumstances and the intensity of the moment.
- The Old Testament Psalm is sung between the two readings when musicians are available; otherwise it is spoken.
- The Gospel is proclaimed by the presider (priest) followed by the Homily, which is also delivered by the presider.
- Intercessions may be chosen, written and delivered by the family.
LITURGY OF THE EUCHARIST
- Preparation of the Gifts – families may choose the song played during the presentation of the gifts and may bring up the gifts of bread and wine.
- Eucharistic prayer
- The Lord’s prayer
- Sign of Peace
- Lamb of God
- Communion Song – may be chosen by the family.
- Moment of Meditation – this may be a piece of sacred music, a moment of silence or a brief reflection upon the life of the deceased. Please note that this is not a eulogy but a brief statement about the essence of the deceased and their spiritual legacy. Eulogizing should be done at the wake or funeral luncheon.
RITE OF COMMENDATION
- Liturgical prayers are said over the casket and the casket is incensed by the presider of the Mass.
- The song played here is usually chosen by the musicians and reflects liturgical texts which request the deceased to be led into paradise.
- The casket is then taken out to the place of interment by the pall bearers.
- Recessional song – may be chosen by the family.
Funeral Liturgy in the presence of Cremains
The Rite of Christian Funerals was revised recently to allow the same funeral rites for cremains (ashes) as for the deceased body, although the Church still prefers the preservation of the body.
Cremains that are present may be sprinkled with holy water, incensed and then the same liturgical prayers (with just a few alterations) are used at the Mass. Cremains are usually placed at the front of the main aisle with the Paschal Candle.
A Memorial Mass
A Memorial Mass is a regular liturgy where prayers in remembrance of the deceased are used from the sacramentary and appropriate scriptures are chosen. This Mass is usually celebrated when a deceased family member is buried in another location or when the body or cremains have been buried prior to the mass.
Sometimes we all need the support, care, prayer, and love of our church friends and family. In this ministry, we attend wake services or meet family members at the funeral to express the sympathy of the parish.
We also follow up with personalized words of comfort and encouragement in a sympathy card.
For more information or to become a part of this ministry, please call Deacon Michael Crowell at 630-718-2197 or [email protected]
JOURNEY TO WHOLENESS
Grief Support, Hope and Healing
Coping with the death of a loved one can be one of the most challenging experiences we face. In those difficult times, many can benefit from a supportive group atmosphere and access to helpful resources about the grief process.
Edward Hospital offers daytime and evening support groups to any community member 18 and older who is grieving the loss of an adult loved one. In the small group setting, participants can choose to share or simply listen. In either case they’ll have a chance to explore ways of coping with their grief by hearing how others are recovering from their losses.
Chaplains trained in Grief Recovery facilitate the programs, and first time attendees are welcome to bring a guest. There is no fee or registration required. Sessions are continuous so you can begin participation at any time. Refreshments and grief resources are provided.
Grief recovery groups meet in the Edward Education Center, Room 308, on the Naperville campus two days a week,
Wednesday: 10 a.m. to 11:30 a.m.
Thursday: 7:30 p.m. to 9 p.m.